• Home
  • About
    • Elizabeth: Personally
    • Education Certifications Affiliations
  • Coaching
    • Educational Coaching
    • Non-Profit Coaching
    • Executive Coaching
    • Leadership Coaching
    • Group/Team Coaching >
      • Sample Workshops
    • One-to-One Coaching
  • Testimonials
  • Media
  • Africa Project
  • Blog
Critchley Coaching
Contact Elizabeth
403.256.4164
​[email protected]

Hats

3/24/2018

0 Comments

 
Picture
I really love the look of a nice hat.  Unfortunately, I don’t look good in hats.  I’m not sure if it’s the shape of my head, my thin face or my mindset, but I do know that whenever I have tried on a hat, no one, not one person, has ever said, “Wow!  That looks great on you.”  It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that some of us should keep our head bare (except when bike riding, when even I succumb to a helmet).

My sister and my daughter can each really pull off ‘the hat’ and each of them do it regularly. They each have quite a variety of hats and each of them can wear them like they were meant to be worn.  I think that is part of the secret.  They both really know how to make it work.  It is as if the hat is just the finishing touch on a perfect picture.  As for me, whenever I put on a hat, I feel so self-conscious I kind of slink into a room, looking for a dark corner so as not to be seen.  This is NOT the recipe for the successful wearing of a hat.  You really have to feel good in a hat to wear it with confidence.  It has to feel so good that you almost forget you have it on.

Despite my inability to carry off hat wearing with confidence, the truth is that I have had the opportunity to wear a number of very exquisite hats in my life. 

For many years I wore the hat of teacher with pride.  This hat fit me to perfection.  There was no hiding in corners when I wore this hat.  I felt passionate, innovative, dedicated and inspired.  I never wanted to hide for all the years I wore this hat.  And no matter how many days I wore this same hat, I always felt renewed and current.  I wore this hat so well that I almost never took it off. It just became who I was.

Another hat I loved was my parenting hat.  It’s become very well worn over the years and I think parts of this one have now been sewn into every other hat I’ve ever had.  It comes with me on every journey and even though it has changed over the years, it’s still my favourite of all.  The original fit so well I usually forgot it was on my head.  I didn’t have to remember to put it on when I left the house, I really think I even wore this one into the shower.

My runners hat has carried me many places and been with me through many problem-solving moments.  When I wear this hat, I feel free.  I feel like I can do anything. There is a certainty to this hat.  I know what is expected of me when I wear it and I know I can find a way to achieve my goals.  In this hat, I forget little grievances, I dismiss doubts and instead I listen for the familiar pat pat of my shoes as they strike the ground.  There have been times when I have lost this hat; in doing so I felt like I had lost a vital piece of myself.

My dancers hat is quite new to me.  I love this hat because it requires me to be more than I thought possible.  When I put on this hat, I know it is ‘show time’.  It’s such a gift to have a hat that thinks we can do more than we ever thought we could.

This past week I donned my facilitators hat as I worked with a wonderful group of School Board officials.  In this hat I feel creative, confident, energetic and purposeful.  I’m very at home in this hat.  When I wear this hat, I get to watch people as they gain valuable insights about themselves and about the contributions they make to their organizations, families and lives.  I could wear this hat every day.  It energizes me and shows me at my best.

In other parts of my life I have less showy hats, but I have hats nonetheless. I’ve been known to wear the hats of uncertainty, guilt and control (this one is one I try to leave in the closet as much as possible now that I see how it really looks on me).  The hats of worry, self-doubt, and pettiness are not good looks for me either.

I’ve also worn the hats of grief, of joy, of wonder and of love.  Wednesday evening, I brought out a hat I rarely wear; my silly hat.  What a laugh we had at our dance practice with me wearing this one!  I’m trying to remember to wear my hat of curiosity as often as I wear my hat of certainty.

Since it’s spring time, a time of new life and renewal, it’s a good time for me to think about which hats I’d like to donate to someone else and which hats I’d like to wear more often.  In my case, I’d love to have someone design me a hat made by combining my comfortable parenting hat, my confident coaching hat, my inspiring dancers hat, my consistent runners hat and of course my full-heart hat.  Since I haven’t found this designer yet, it will be up to me to stop by my closet each day and make a conscious choice about what hats I will choose.

As you head into Easter week, what bonnet will you choose? 

My inquiry for you this week is, ‘Is this the hat I choose to wear?’

Have a great week!  You look fantastic in that hat!
​
Elizabeth creates and facilitates custom workshops for corporate, public and private groups.  She provides leadership coaching for individuals and groups.  Contact Elizabeth to plan your next professional development day or to simply spend some time with her trying on hats!

0 Comments

Your comment will be posted after it is approved.


Leave a Reply.

    Picture

    Sign up below to have my blog delivered to your inbox weekly.

    Enter your email address:

    Delivered by FeedBurner

    RSS Feed

    Author

    Elizabeth Critchley (CPCC, ACC) is an accredited, certified, Professional Life Coach who excels at helping motivated clients clearly define and work toward their goals, dreams and purpose.  She believes it takes the same amount of energy to create a big dream as it does to create a little dream.  She encourages her clients to dare to dream big.

    Archives

    February 2025
    January 2025
    December 2024
    November 2024
    October 2024
    July 2024
    June 2024
    May 2024
    April 2024
    March 2024
    February 2024
    January 2024
    December 2023
    November 2023
    October 2023
    September 2023
    July 2023
    June 2023
    May 2023
    April 2023
    March 2023
    February 2023
    January 2023
    June 2022
    May 2022
    April 2022
    March 2022
    February 2022
    January 2022
    December 2021
    November 2021
    October 2021
    September 2021
    July 2021
    June 2021
    May 2021
    April 2021
    March 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020
    October 2020
    September 2020
    August 2020
    July 2020
    June 2020
    May 2020
    April 2020
    March 2020
    February 2020
    January 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    October 2019
    September 2019
    August 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    May 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015

    Categories

    All

©2018 Elizabeth Critchley