• Home
  • About
    • Elizabeth: Personally
    • Education Certifications Affiliations
  • Coaching
    • Educational Coaching
    • Non-Profit Coaching
    • Executive Coaching
    • Leadership Coaching
    • Group/Team Coaching >
      • Sample Workshops
    • One-to-One Coaching
  • Testimonials
  • Media
  • Africa Project
  • Blog
Critchley Coaching
Contact Elizabeth
403.256.4164
​critche@telus.net

January 10th, 2016

1/10/2016

2 Comments

 
Picture
Note:  This blog post was written in the summer of 2013 before I even had a blog!  I came across it today, and thought it would be a good time to share.  Enjoy!

A Kathleen Day

Kathleen is our friend and neighbour.  She has just turned 18 and has finished High School.  Kathleen has Down’s Syndrome.  Her absolute most favourite thing IN THE WORLD is Cinderella.  In particular, she loves being Cinderella.  Last October, an event happened in her life that I can’t seem to stop thinking about.  Halloween was coming up and Kathleen wanted to be Cinderella.  Not particularly surprising or noteworthy.  What is noteworthy however is that the Educational Assistants and Support Staff at her high school decided to get in on her idea.  So, instead of Kathleen just dressing as Cinderella for Halloween, each of those staff members got in on the fun.  They chose roles and each dressed up as a character from the story.  There were mice, step sisters, prince charming, a step mother and a fairy god mother!  The entire day was devoted to giving her the most incredibly special day!

Flash forward to spring time.  Graduation time for Kathleen was approaching.  While the other girls were thinking about their prom dresses and the wonderful evening they would have, Kathleen was dreaming about being Cinderella.   Her mom set to work trying to find a place that might have a dress that would be perfect.  Her mom knew that while this was a special night for all of the students, for Kathleen, this might truly be the most special night of her life.  The other students may have other huge celebrations to look forward to – college or university convocations, weddings, babies, - this graduation from High School might just be the biggest public celebration for Kathleen. 

And so the dress hunting began and ended not far away in the small town of High River!  Not only was there a dress, but the day that her mom took her in for her fitting, Kathleen was treated like a royal princess.  She tried on the dress and was able to step up onto the platform and view it from every angle.  All of the staff in the shop made it an amazing time for her!  Measurements were taken and the path looked paved for the perfect graduation evening.   Kathleen was counting the weeks!  She even had a date!  The teenage son of one of her Educational Assistants had invited her to be his date.  They would travel by limo with her parents to the venue, sharing the meal with both families and other family friends.

On June 20th, without any real warning, the town of High River had the worst flood in its history.  Torrents of water flooded through the streets in mere hours.  As the river rose, water entered homes and businesses and went from inches on the floor and in the streets to over 4 feet of water in less than two hours.  Residents and business owners tried to secure what they could, but most of them were eventually just grateful to be rescued before the chance of rescue became impossible.  As we watched the events of the flood unfold on the television, Kathleen’s mom commented to me that although she knew that there were so many more things to be concerned with, she just kept hoping and praying that somehow, Kathleen’s dress would be ok.  Grad was 10 days away and there would be no way to get another perfect Cinderella dress in that time.
The shop keeper in High River had plenty on her mind too.  Her shop was filling with water.  Amid all of the chaos of the flood, she suddenly remembered about the special dress for Kathleen.  She managed to get to the shop, find the dress, put it on a truck and have it sent to her home,a location away from the flood waters.  As fate would have it, there was no location that was safe from the flood.  When she realized this, again she got to the dress, rescued it and made sure that it was safe.  Kathleen’s mom, of course knew none of this until a few days later when she called to tell her that the dress was safe!  It was such an act of consideration – a small act in so many ways.  But it was such a deliberate act of kindness; an act of selflessness in the truest sense of the word. 

When graduation day arrived, the limo had been ordered, Grandma and Grandpa had arrived and everything was set to go.  Cinderella had her hair done, her nails polished and her picture had been taken at home.   My husband had volunteered to be the paparazzi; to wait at the end of our lane and to take pictures as the limo passed by.  We had painters on ladders working on our house and we had given them firm orders to give us the signal when the limo started leaving Kathleen’s driveway so that the paparazzi could take his place at the top of the driveway!  The limo was filled with Cinderella and all of her dreams.  Her date had arrived with his family.  Kathleen’s brother had created a special playlist of her favourite music to be enjoyed en route.

When I was driving home after the graduation, I couldn’t help but think of all of the planning and thought that went into making that day such a perfect one for Kathleen.  This was a special evening that had been made so by many people.  I got to thinking that our world would be a more wonderful place if everyone got to experience “A Kathleen Day”; a day where each person felt truly known.  Known enough that someone would go out of their way to make one of their dreams come true or to simply create a day, or part of a day, that the recipient simply loved.

And so I am sending out the challenge to watch for opportunities to create “A Kathleen Day”.  Perhaps it will be “A Kathleen Moment” instead.  But either way, someone will know that they are cared for deeply and that someone knows them well enough to know what special means to them.
​
Please watch for and create ‘Kathleen Days’.  Write about them and send them to me.  I will post them here.

2 Comments
Christine Lederer
1/10/2016 04:27:21 pm

When I was in treatment for breast cancer, I had many "Kathleen" moments. You and Jim were one of them, showing up unexpectedly one day with a wonderful book and hugs of support. Once, due to unforeseen circumstances, Rob couldn't take me to chemo, so a parent in our school heard about our need and spent a whole day with me at the Tom Baker. I had quilts made and hot dinners delivered to keep our whole family warm and happy. But, the kindest and most thoughtful gift was the anonymous deliveries of tulips. A bouquet of my favourite flowers arrived at our front door - every week - from the beginning of March to the end of May, celebrating another step closer to the completion of my treatment. I did catch a glimpse of the "florist" one day, but, no one would own this act of kindness! Almost nine years later, I hold all those "Kathleen" moments near and thank God for the blessings of family and friends. Now, I need to keep looking for ways to give back to others what I was so fortunate to receive. :-)

Reply
Tom Gordon
1/10/2016 06:48:34 pm

Thank you for this post. I have experienced many of these 'Kathleen Days' for students with special needs. It seems to me that the people who work with these students have a knack for seeing and acting upon these needs. I agree, it would be terrific if everyone could have a Kathleen Day. I know that the mathematical probability of this happening is daunting. But wouldn't it be nice?

Reply

Your comment will be posted after it is approved.


Leave a Reply.

    Picture

    Sign up below to have my blog delivered to your inbox weekly.

    Enter your email address:

    Delivered by FeedBurner

    RSS Feed

    Author

    Elizabeth Critchley (CPCC, ACC) is an accredited, certified, Professional Life Coach who excels at helping motivated clients clearly define and work toward their goals, dreams and purpose.  She believes it takes the same amount of energy to create a big dream as it does to create a little dream.  She encourages her clients to dare to dream big.

    Archives

    June 2022
    May 2022
    April 2022
    March 2022
    February 2022
    January 2022
    December 2021
    November 2021
    October 2021
    September 2021
    July 2021
    June 2021
    May 2021
    April 2021
    March 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020
    October 2020
    September 2020
    August 2020
    July 2020
    June 2020
    May 2020
    April 2020
    March 2020
    February 2020
    January 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    October 2019
    September 2019
    August 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    May 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015

    Categories

    All

©2018 Elizabeth Critchley