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Read the Label

2/20/2016

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My very, very dear friend, Coralie, became a grandmother this week.  What a celebration in their house!  Of course, once it was verified that the baby was healthy, the very next question was, “What did they name her?”  We have all very likely asked this question.  Those of us who are parents know how we agonized over choosing just the right name.  Those of us who are teachers often had an even shorter list of names to choose from!  When we owned our acreage, we named it too– Elkwood.  It seems that once we give someone or something a name, or a label, we have defined it – at least in our own minds.  Many of us have even looked up our own name’s meaning to see how the label fits. 
 
So, that got me thinking.  Other than our names, what labels have we given to ourselves that help define us?
 
 Sometimes I hear someone say something like, “Oh, I’m so clumsy.”  Or, “I’m very organized”.  Or, “I’m not very adventuresome”.  Or, “I’m such a geek”.  Or, “I’m a runner”.  While none of these is particularly oppressive, each of them does put us into a box that begins to define us in our own minds.  When we define ourselves in a certain way in our own minds, we give others permission to define us in the same way. 
 
When we see a product in the grocery store we often look at the label to determine if we will even give it a chance to make it to our table.  The label that has been placed on it, good or bad, gives incredible influence to the consumer on whether or not to purchase.
 
I’ve always thought it is incredibly sad to hear a young child mention that they are not very good at something.  It is amazing to me, that by about 5 or 6 they have already put some limiting labels on their abilities.  Sometimes parents help them along with this by adding, “Don’t worry honey, I was never good at that either.”  I often hear adults say that they were told the things that they would never be good at.  And it stuck. 
 
So I think about Brooklynn, the brand new baby, who just arrived in our world this week.  I’m trying to picture a wall above her bassinet with blank labels.  And I’m wondering who among us would be comfortable entering her room and with the help of a permanent marker, writing things like “Not good at math”, “Terrible organizational skills”, “Maybe just mouth the words instead of singing”, “Afraid of flying”, “Not very creative”, “A bit clumsy”, “Shy”.  Imagine.
 
When I see a new baby, I see only possibility.  It is as if they have every potentiality waiting for them.  If our best-self entered the baby’s room and wrote on the labels, I suspect we would write things like, “Dreamer”, “Visionary”, “Talented”, “Kind”, “Endless Possibility”, ”Beautiful”, “Wise”, “Good Friend”, “Confident”.
 
I challenge you to keep this image in your mind when you are tempted to apply a label to someone, including yourself.  When we label people, it is as if we are writing it with permanent marker, in a place where we read and re-read the label every day.  We begin to believe it.  Maybe it’s time we all choose to scrape off the limiting labels that we, or others, have given us and replace them with labels that allow us to become who we are striving to be.
 
Welcome to our world, Brooklynn.   May your life be filled with people who continue to see only possibility in you!

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    Elizabeth Critchley (CPCC, ACC) is an accredited, certified, Professional Life Coach who excels at helping motivated clients clearly define and work toward their goals, dreams and purpose.  She believes it takes the same amount of energy to create a big dream as it does to create a little dream.  She encourages her clients to dare to dream big.

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